It is very rightly said that what we see is what we get. An illustrious example is of the glass that is half empty while others look at it as half filled. The sense of vision is the same and the eyes both the onlookers have are the same. The essential question that arises is ‘What made the two see, two different things in the same object?’ The answer is Perception.
We see what we want to see and hear what we want to hear, the same applies to all other cases and situations. When we don’t want to hear something we don’t like we shut ourselves mentally. In the same way we look at others in the way we want to see them. Also we look at situations and judge them according to experience and learning.
Hence if we want to get something positive out from a person, then we have to see that positivity in that person first. Only when we see, visualize and imagine the other person producing something positive, will that person actually produce something positive.